It feels good to have a partner in crime.
Someone to eat meals with. Someone to take walks with. Someone to help me carry my groceries up the stairs.
The transition from long distance to in-town love has been easy. I must admit, much better than I expected. I was a bit worried about how Crush and I would settle in. Especially, because I really like my own personal space and I can be OCD tidy. He wants to be next to me all of the time and he is an epic slob. Yet, we are making this work because for the last year, I have been clear about my expectations and he has been clear about his. There are no surprises and we are balancing being together wonderfully.
Something that I have always known about myself is that I require downtime. Alone time where I can do some work (surf the Internet), watch Bravo, and examine my pores. Yes, it isn't like I do much with the time, I just need it!
Something I hated when I was with Awful was his lack of understanding of my need to be alone. To not have plans. To not host guests for dinner more than 1 night a week. He wanted people around him all of the time. Being alone scares him, whereas being alone recharges me.
This week, Crush and I have been invited somewhere each and every day. Brunches, lunches, suppers, cocktails, concerts, picnics. People have showed interest in meeting me and I am very flattered, yet exhausted. If these plans were just Crush and myself, I would be fine, but having to make an effort and conversation aka "be on", well it takes a lot out of me.
Yesterday, over lunch, Crush mentioned going to a friends house on Saturday for an impromptu dinner party and I did something I was never able to do in the past without being massively passive-aggressive. I said the following:
"Honey, I am really enjoying meeting everyone, but I am getting a bit tired. I need some me time. Time to sleep well, go to the gym, search for a job, and acclimate myself. Whereas I love socializing, I also love staying in and watching TV and cooking just as much. I want a chance to just have us time, so if possible, can we keep this week light with plans and ask them for a rain check in a few weeks?"
He then told me something that was like music to my ears:
"Yes, I often don't have plans like this. Everyone wants to meet you and honestly, I am so tired and I am getting overwhelmed by all of this running around. I just wanted to give you a chance to meet new people and make friends, so I didn't want to limit your opportunities here."
He is a sweet one.
The thing is that I am lucky. At 32, I know I will make some more dear friends here and there, but I already have my friends for life.
It makes staying in with my Bravo and Trader Joe's frozen delicacies, even a bit more satisfying.