tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post7759509555381371445..comments2023-10-31T05:42:42.996-07:00Comments on Ready and Fading: Sick, Emotional Eating, Doubt and Other Updates....Readyandfadinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-72611823315968813842013-04-04T09:54:47.740-07:002013-04-04T09:54:47.740-07:00I can understand completely why you'd be upset...I can understand completely why you'd be upset about the imbalance in traveling to spend time together. Even though you are moving there and won't need to do this long-distance set-up any more, it doesn't alleviate the anger you feel now. After all, you want assurance that he'll figuratively meet you half-way in other things. So it may be worth bringing it up rather than having resentment build up? Hang in there :)Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711470733997117332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-29792035146471884442013-04-03T08:36:33.795-07:002013-04-03T08:36:33.795-07:00Thank you for the wonderful comment. Thank you tha...Thank you for the wonderful comment. Thank you thank you! I am taking so much of my life and bad feelings out on Crush. I realize this and it needs to stop. I would hate if he did the same to me!!!! He gets a pass from time to on the stupid things....he is a man after all! Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-73103127935918335492013-04-03T08:33:50.058-07:002013-04-03T08:33:50.058-07:00Thank you for this wonderful thoughtful comment. I...Thank you for this wonderful thoughtful comment. I appreciate it so much. It is so much about the showing me. I was open with him yesterday and he bought a ticket up north last night......so at least he hears me. I think the 5 month scare came much with thinking about all of the things I haven't been able to get done, like losing weight, in the last year.....made me realize that 5 months can go by when I don't want to do the work needed........thank you again! Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-70627762923379320622013-04-02T17:18:17.985-07:002013-04-02T17:18:17.985-07:00R&F... I was starting to worry about you. Gla...R&F... I was starting to worry about you. Glad you're back. Here are my thoughts. Emotional eating - can't help you - still can't get that under control. I think you may be taking things out on crush because you are not in your comfort zone. Moving is the second most stressful thing someone can go thru. Death of a spouse being first. After 23 years of marriage - they could switch places every once in awhile. Adjusting your seat - well all I can say are men are idiots. They just don't think. But that doesn't mean they don't love you. If you had a perfect life what could you write about? And what fabulous blog would make me laugh? Love your comment on the "sneeze." Preppy Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446028963455322844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-4858954934138268592013-04-02T12:17:33.150-07:002013-04-02T12:17:33.150-07:00First, I've never had allergies, until just re...First, I've never had allergies, until just recently, so I know how this can make you feel. I was super manic when I had them and it stressed me out even more. However, get some Zyrtec (or however its spelled), I ordered the Kirkland generic brand from Amazon bcs I am cheap.<br /><br />Secondly, I fully, FULLY understand emotional eating. You just want to do it. Your so stressed out or overwhelmed that you deserve to treat yourself. Just make one thing about this day good. Well, fuck that, because after you do that, tell me if you will feel better? If you have a journal, this is the time to write before you do something how you felt. Then after you ate something how you felt. It will probably be the same, just with a sugar high. Also, getting grumpy about missing working out is totally normal. I do it, and super fit Rabbit does it. You're missing that sweat/feel good 'me time'. Its healthy. Treating yourself with food is not healthy. <br /><br />Traveling a lot is hard, especially if you are a homebody, or like creature comforts. Also, a lot of resentment can come up on your side for leaving your entire life. However, it needs to be worth it for you. I heard this so much from my friend that moved from lovely San Diego, to a blah city in Southern Texas. She hated it there, still does to my knowledge. However, love conquers all right? It was worth it to her to be with him, his wife, even if that meant leaving her home city and family for 3 years. <br /><br />Perhaps you feel as if your level of commitment to moving, isn't matching his level of commitment, AKA putting a ring on your finger. Maybe you want him to SHOW you how serious he is, just like how serious you are being about this? <br /><br />It seems like the levels don't match. He isn't SHOWING you his commitment by visiting, you are doing most of the work here. Resentment builds fast and easy, so you need to express these things to him in a clear and concise way. <br /><br />The seat thing, I think it was a stupid mistake. Unless he has done something similar before, I would just forgive him for it and move along.<br /><br />5 months is a long time. Sure, you think days go by fast, but that's because you don't look back and analyze every minute of every hour. Just the good or bad things that happen that day. Count out the days, plan spin and barre classes, do you. You still have a lot of time left. Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106092363732337130noreply@blogger.com