tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post4087260964755728209..comments2023-10-31T05:42:42.996-07:00Comments on Ready and Fading: The S WordReadyandfadinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-45807585531239515662013-05-04T15:28:04.083-07:002013-05-04T15:28:04.083-07:00I think you are right. I am sensitive about my we...I think you are right. I am sensitive about my weight...TOTALLY. Every time something weight related happens....I make it about my self. I cannot help it!<br /><br />It is so hard to mesh upbringings. You are very right. I plan to raise kids with health and only health in mind as what is on the inside is so much more important than the outside.... I can't pass on my own obsession with the outside to my future kin (if I have them)....it is what is on the inside that counts. Have fun tonight!!!!! Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-37973921963544998392013-05-03T19:00:04.057-07:002013-05-03T19:00:04.057-07:00I don't think Crush is trying to be hurtful; m...I don't think Crush is trying to be hurtful; my guess is that since you're sensitive to weight, you happen to notice every time he mentions someone's weight. This is me trying to give him the benefit of the doubt :)<br /><br />It's hard to mesh two people's different upbringings and lifestyles when it comes to food. I've had my own issues - my parents let me eat all the junk I wanted because they themselves have wonderful metabolisms and weren't big eaters in the first place. They couldn't figure out why I was so overweight. Finally, at 23, they essentially bullied me into losing weight. If I have kids, they'll also be raised with health (and not appearance) in mind!Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711470733997117332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-61552520345195692762013-05-03T12:49:27.026-07:002013-05-03T12:49:27.026-07:00YES with the MIL.....I can see how this is going t...YES with the MIL.....I can see how this is going to be and I love her so already, but there will input, lots of it. Sometimes, I am NOT going to like it.<br /><br />He cannot sensor at all. He also is the sweetest mama's boy and parrots sentiments without realizing how the words can make me feel. <br /><br />I am going to practice saying SUCK IT. GREAT ADVICE. I am such a people pleaser that it is taking some practice, but I am getting the hang of it!!!!Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-34466089264550491772013-05-03T12:42:41.261-07:002013-05-03T12:42:41.261-07:00You are so right!!! He has heard me about the tri...You are so right!!! He has heard me about the triggers, thank goodness. Hopefully no more S word!Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-31940410322177960062013-05-03T12:35:37.905-07:002013-05-03T12:35:37.905-07:00Thank you so much!! He has since agreed to drop t...Thank you so much!! He has since agreed to drop the s word...thank goodness! He is a really fantastic one because he hears me. I am lucky for this! And.....I have always wanted to be short! The grass is always greener...........Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-9616577193373646772013-05-03T12:33:46.320-07:002013-05-03T12:33:46.320-07:00SO OLD SCHOOL!!! We have discussed this in detail...SO OLD SCHOOL!!! We have discussed this in detail and I know he loves me for me thick or thin, but all the talk about weight....IT IS SO MUCH and as I said, super triggering!!!<br /><br />Crush has agreed to keep all skinny and fat talk out of conversation and especially out of our future home. He is worried about his sister (who has disordered eating) and it is manifesting in all sorts of ways.....he admitted that he is trying to justify thinness because admitting the truth sometimes is super hard and scary....I should know!!!<br /><br />Take a science class is right!!! Healthy and natural foods WILL always be in my home! <br /><br />Thank you for the wonderful comment! Readyandfadinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07701847911003124862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-73703379438240687192013-05-02T14:47:17.182-07:002013-05-02T14:47:17.182-07:00As much as I love my [Jewish] mother-in-law (like ...As much as I love my [Jewish] mother-in-law (like really, I am so happy to have a mother love her), they always have their input. Your weight, your wedding, your relationship. Hell, I just got done having a conversation about living room pillows and the cost associated with them.<br /><br />Take a good look at yourself and your relationship. a) it's about the two of you and all other unsolicited garbage is crap. b) Crush picked you. No matter what he says, and by all means we no guys are clueless, he can't sensor. Most dudes can't.<br /><br />And I've got another S word for you - SUCK it. Which is exactly what you need to tell ANYONE when they give you unsolicited input on anything. (Except me.)<br /><br />xoMummy Dearesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488455200105763530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-32726499071598221522013-05-02T11:48:50.102-07:002013-05-02T11:48:50.102-07:00I think once you are ok with yourself, it will bec...I think once you are ok with yourself, it will become easier to stand up to the mom...and frankly, he met you and loved you through the few pounds you have gained and lost already. Dude wants you. So. Ya know. But he needs to learn your triggers as well and stay away from them;)Fabulously Alwayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18415426705611682839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-25963291630498005662013-05-02T06:48:47.253-07:002013-05-02T06:48:47.253-07:00All I can tell you, R&F is keep up the good wo...All I can tell you, R&F is keep up the good work working out and WW. Tell Crush to lose the "S" word. Your future MIL is from another generation. One that never knew the word eating disorder. Keep on pluggin...You're doing great. And by the way, I am 5'1 and I hope in my next life I can be 5'10"!!!Preppy Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446028963455322844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661251715457709926.post-75613494398562886842013-05-01T19:26:02.862-07:002013-05-01T19:26:02.862-07:00Ugh, I understand the mentality, and its so old sc...Ugh, I understand the mentality, and its so old school. That was the thing back then (very Betty Draper al la Mad Men where cigarettes were the 'skinny food group'). However, I don't like that vanity is creeping into your guys relationship. Isn't it a big thing in the south? At least with the debutante people I would assume so. I think she should be happy that he is dating (and wants to marry) a good and caring person. <br /><br />If some mother of a guy I wanted to marry was making comments like that to him, I don't know what I'd do. Probably eat to comfort myself. That's what happens when you have a food addiction!<br /><br />As far as the future goes, this would be your family that YOU have with crush. Yes, his mother would be part of it, but she had her chance to raise children. This is your chance. If she ever, ever questions what you teach your children about nutrition or wellness, you have EVERY right to take her aside and tell her that you don't want that kind of talk in your home, and if she can't respect that, then you need to have a real serious conversation about boundaries, etc.<br /><br />I will be raising my children on a whole foods/natural LIFESTYLE not a diet mentality. They can eat as many strawberries as they want, and BTW berries are one of the lowest fructose fruits. Jeez lady, take a science class!Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106092363732337130noreply@blogger.com